Frequently Asked questions

What are IRL Men’s Groups?

IRL Men’s Groups are relationally-focused therapy groups.  They are for male-identified people who are interested in developing skills that make deeper relationships possible in their lives. 


How frequently do you meet?


All groups meet on a weekly basis for 90 minutes.  We take breaks on some major national holidays, depending on how close the meeting is to the holiday.

How many members are in a group?


IRL Men’s Groups range between 5-8 members.  Some of them are led by both Brian and Troy, and some are led by only one of us.  


What days and times are the groups?


Currently, our Oakland groups meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays, our San Francisco groups meet on Wednesdays, and our online groups meet on Tuesday afternoons and evenings.  Times vary; contact us through our website for more details on openings for these groups.


Is there a cost to the group? How much does it cost?

Group costs $80 per 90-minute session.  We are committed to serving men who are a good fit for group.  Therefore, we have space for clients who need a fee reduction to participate sustainably on a weekly level.

Do you take insurance?

Although we are not paneled with any insurance companies as an in-network provider, we offer anyone with out-of-network coverage an invoice with a few extra details that will help you to make an out-of-network claim with your insurance company.  Most insurance plans offer some form of out-of-network reimbursement, and we are happy to guide you through the process to make it easy.


Can I use my FSA/HSA account to pay for group?


Yes--many of our group members use FSA/HSA accounts to pay for group.

What is the process of getting started?

There are two steps to getting started: 1) a 15-minute initial phone consultation; 2) 3-4 in-person 50-minute individual meetings to help us get to know more about you and prepare you for group.  The cost of each intake session is $200 (with sliding scale based on need).  

Once you have completed these steps, we will make a recommendation.  If we are confident that one of our groups will be a good fit for your needs, we will recommend a specific group for you to join, and help you decide on a start date.  In the case that our groups are not the right fit for you, we may also recommend either a different kind of group that more specifically meets your needs or another therapeutic format that would be more appropriate to your needs.  


What kind of commitment do you look for?


We ask for an initial 16-week commitment from any new member.  This is enough time to settle into the group and see if it is going to be a good fit going forward.  Ultimately, we are looking for members who intend to continue past the first 16 sessions, since the longer you stay, the deeper you can go.  Once you are in the group, your membership is ongoing until you decide to leave the group.  


What is the format of the group?


IRL Men’s Groups are a closed format group, meaning that once the group is full, we do not add new members until an existing member leaves.  This allows the group to develop trust and depth with each other so that honest support and feedback become more possible over time.